What is that our friends find so hard to understand about getting healthy?
It is after all very simple.
1.Eat Good Fresh Food
2.From naturally good sources
3.Cut out grains
4.Cut down carbs
5.Don’t eat junk
6.Exercise according to your ability – but don’t get complacent.
It is not complicated, so where’s the problem?
It’s us… We are the problem because we try to add in our own spin and be helpful. While that is done from good intentions – most of the time we simply confuse our friends and colleagues because they will always come back with something like… “Oh, does that mean I can’t have – ‘a particular food item that they want’.
So we get into the why’s and wherefores of say ‘root vegetables’ and as far as they are concerned all they are going to hear is “Bang goes Sunday Lunch” And everything we say after that will come back to not being able to have sunday lunch – or whatever else they now think has gone for ever.
Do you see where I’m coming from?
I’m sure you can resonate with having gone through something like that. And from then on you become part of either the food police or the worst person to chat with at a gathering… A ‘diet bore’.
So what is the solution then. How can we help people help themselves without getting in a pickle and losing the plot?
Well… Cast your mind back to when you first started. After the initial realisation that you needed to do something, then came the search for what you should do and then how you should do it. And – like many others – you probably ended up either doing a search on the web for info or you bought a book. And it was when you got to that stage that I’ll bet things really took off for you because you got information that you could follow along with set out in an easy and logical way.
Yes, you had questions. But you could not interrupt anyone as the words were written down. And anyway, your questions were most likely answered as you got further should do it. And – like many others – you probably ended up either doing a search on the web for info or you bought a book. And it was when you got to that stage that I’ll bet things really took off for you because you got information that you could follow along with set out in an easy and logical way.
Yes, you had questions. But you could not interrupt anyone as the words were written down. And anyway, your questions were most likely answered as you got further into the book – probably straight after you were given just the right amount of information required to be able to understand the context of the information you needed to hear.
So what am I suggesting then?
Simply this… When someone takes an interest in how you got fit and healthy ask them just one question along the lines of… “Why, are you interested in getting fit and healthy too?”
If they say yes, simply reply saying something along the lines of “Thats great! Let me give you the info that helped me tomorrow.” And leave it at that. Ignore any pleas to say more as… Well, you know what will happen.
The next day or whenever you said you’d give them the info, do just that. Give them the book, article, internet site or whatever it was that got you on the path to being fitter and let them read it and digest if for themselves.
Don’t be pulled into conversation until they have read it. and you can be totally upfront about it by saying “Look, I’ll only confuse things – but it is really well explained in this book, site or whatever you gave them.”
Then say something like, “Have a good look and let me know if you think it can help you.”
Then leave them to get on with it.
They will come back to you if they have read it and probably won’t say another word if they don’t.
So what has this all accomplished?
Well simply you have done four things. You’ve…
Shown them that the info they now have is too valuable to mess around with.
Reinforced your value of it by giving them something you have sort of obligated them to at least look at it.
Taken ‘you’ out of the picture. They now have the words of an ‘expert’ to weigh up not yours. That also means you can’t be seen as either diet police or a bore. But most of all you have allowed and empowered them to take responsibility for their own health.
Now I can already hear your thoughts… “It’s going to get expensive giving books to all these people.”
Not if you go to the charity stores and buy them there often for as little as 50 cents.
It does not have to be a new book. And frankly, I’d say it’s better not to be a new one.
And lastly, it costs nothing to give someone a few links to websites that you use and trust.
I trust you’ll enjoy the magazine too.